Unfriend Some People And Improve Your Life

Facebook is a phenomenon. Mark Zuckerberg created a monster. He said in 2012 that:

Facebook was not originally created to be a company. It was built to accomplish a social mission — to make the world more open and connected…

…Personal relationships are the fundamental unit of our society. Relationships are how we discover new ideas, understand our world and ultimately derive long-term happiness.

At Facebook, we build tools to help people connect with the people they want and share what they want, and by doing this we are extending people’s capacity to build and maintain relationships.

Well today our Facebook pages are filled with trolls and other things. It’s a place where 50 year old grandmothers share what they had for lunch, what tattoo they are going to get, and who they want to sleep with. (that’s nasty)

I think you would do yourself a service if you cleaned up your list and “unfriend” or stopped following some of the people on it. We aren’t building relationships. We aren’t networking.   We could be but we are not.  We aren’t building anything of value. There are the exceptions but most of the stuff on Facebook is junk.

Guard your mind and spirit from junk. You can’t un-see it. You had a bad day and didn’t know it started with the stuff you saw online.   There are a lot a hurting people out here.

Hurt people, hurt people.

And then there are the trolls of Facebook. Folks study the negatives, see video below. But our culture is encouraging the growth of more trolls.

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

A Facebook Troll is someone who comes onto your post or discussion and (1) totally misses the point, (2) just wants the attention, (3) is there to upset or disrupt the conversation. Trolls will exaggerate, and offend to get a response.

Don't feed the trolls
What is slightly interesting is that you probably don’t even know them but you have befriended them. Trolls enjoy sarcasm. They think they are demonstrating their intelligence or your lack of.

Trolls truly enjoy making you feel bad. “Both trolls and sadists feel sadistic glee at the distress of others. Sadists just want to have fun … and the Facebook is their playground!”

Today, rudeness, narcissism, entitlement, insults, aggressive acting and victimology are the norm. These poor behaviors are reinforced, supported, and encouraged. Unfortunately I am not talking about children. Look at the “adults” in our media. The real “successful” ones are arses. Try naming some and it’s not hard. You can start with politicians and Presidential candidates. You can list the talking heads and host of shows like Bill O’Reilly, and Simon Cowell. (I’ve noticed that every talent show now cast one evil British person and one clueless one.) The lack of polite civility often rules the day. Does the cliché that “nice guys finishing last” promote this?

What do we mean by nice anyway? I would suggest that being nice is being gracious, kind, polite, considerate, compassionate, and basically treating others as you wish to be treated. Do you remember, “The Golden Rule”?

Have we come to believe only that “the squeaky wheel typically gets the grease,” and other trite clichés like “closed mouths don’t get fed”? Which unfortunately works since those who are demanding, entitled, aggressive, and insulting often seem to get their way.

Every once in awhile post something to bait the trolls on your “friends list” and cull the herd. I encourage this as a person that prefers to be around nice, polite and compassionate people all day. I know it looks cool to have thousands of people on your list. But 180 trolls per thousand is a bit much. A little less than 6% of your friends list may have the troll gene (based on a thousand friends) So its not going to be catastrophic if you don’t friend everybody. It might just improve your day.

This is just one guys opinion but it works for me.  Think about it and let me know what you decide.






Rev. Kenn Blanchard is a professional speaker, writer, podcaster, and digital influencer. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook He is the force behind BlackManWithAGun.com, founder of Blanchard.Media and the SpeaklifeChurch.net