Every man has a struggle to fight. There is a dragon to slay in every mans life. As boys we know this but society tries to subdue it. When it succeeds we no longer have the will to handle difficulty. Life is a fight to death. Only the strong survive.
I’ve learned a lot from my son in this realm . This weekend Kenneth Blanchard, II competed in a kickboxing match in Delaware. I learned that what happens is after weeks of training and sacrifice you will meet an opponent of more or less equal size and skill for three rounds, two minutes long to test your combative skill. The truth is no one is equal. One will be always be better. One will have more heart, more skill or better conditioning that the other. And then there is always the judges but one will win and one will lose. Often the opponent in these matches is a no-show and all the sacrifice is wasted but these fighters men and women carry on.
After weeks of fasting, he made weight. He and his team drove to Delaware. This is not like the movies, he didn’t have to fight. It is not for money. In fact, in cost him a days salary plus the sacrifice of food and training to make weight. He fought today but lost in the decision but won the respect of many. He already had mine. He is awesome.
There was no million dollar payday at the end of this day. Kenneth 2.0 did this for the love of it. He said that he was closer to being what his 7 year old self wanted to be. He is a martial artist. He could easily be a model. He is a college educated, employed, clean living, drug free, tax paying, home owning, single, no kids, a follower of Christ. I love this guy.
….This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased. Mathew 3:17
Because of my son, I created the WarriorCast podcast and blog. Through that I have interviewed several fighters, and trainers.
Here are some of my sons team.
I asked “Why Do You Fight?
I train to fight because it feels natural almost visceral. Pushing yourself to walls and pushing past gets you ready for real conflict in life. From real adversarial conflict that could be even end up deadly to just trying to resolve a misunderstanding with a friend. -Reed Miller
It challenges me holistically, mind body and spirit. Martial arts also transcends just fighting , I’m a better community member, student, teacher, and woman because of my training – Jasmine H.
I train to improve myself in all parts of life, fighting is the truest form if expression of who you are so you find yourself in it and i love the competition. – Josh Jackson
Tips for Fighters
JEROME W – OWNER OF DCBFIT.COM
1. Calculate the risk.
2. This is a lonely journey that will end painfully.
3. No one really cares, your just a body. When it’s over on to the next fighter.
4. You will not make millions, you probably won’t even make hundreds.
5. Amateur belts and championships mean nothing. You are not a World Champion until you earn it as a Pro.
6. You are your on brand so promote yourself.
7. Have health insurance or money set aside for your injuries.
8. Don’t diet, change your lifestyle.
9. Surround yourself with people that tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
10. Enjoy the F%#kin trip because you can fight forever!
- Your dreams work as hard as you do
- Progress is progress no matter how little or slow
- Ask yourself what would you do to defeat yourself? then work on those things
- Train from the inside out, mind, soul, body
- Rest is important, some athletes dot know when too much is too much, the body needs rest
- Nobody will push you as hard as you will push you
- it’s okay to need help, pride is not your friend
- technique is better than production, quality over quantity
- you’re as good as the next man you train with, build up others around you and be willing to grow yourself
- Always remember it is okay to fail, effort comes in the tries, progression in every lesson learned. A step forward is more than a step not taken. Compare yourself to none, you create your own vision and become that which you see
- In no particular order:
- Make the tedious parts of training fun/interesting
- Striking is attribute base, acknowledge the ones you are proficient at and put extra time into your weaknesses
- For every ONE hour of sparring you should be doing THREE hours of drilling/padwork/conditioning etc.
- Sparring is not for your ego, it’s for working techniques in a live and less predictable setting
- You won’t improve vastly over a short period of time, get better 1% everyday.
- Consistency is the key to improving
- Build up your teammates and put the time in to improve them too, iron sharpens iron
- Keep moving, it’s like shooting. Much harder to hit a moving target
- Get the fundamentals down before trying to get “flashy” or “tricky”
- Just have fun!
1. Write it down. Journals and documenting technique and progress are huge.
2. If someone kicks your ass sparring train with them more and find out what you should fix.
3. Give back, help someone starting out or show a technique they can use.
4. Monitor your diet and listen to your body.
5. Have fun don’t take things too serious.
6. Competition is healthy but not necessary.
7. Train at other schools and with other people.
8. You tube is great for new moves but focus on the fundamentals.
9. Be aggressive don’t hurt anyone but you are training for self defense at the very least.
10. Pay your dues, training takes time adjust your attitude, there are no quick fixes.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. —Theodore Roosevelt
Rev. Kenn Blanchard is a professional speaker, writer, podcaster, and digital influencer. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook He is the founder of Blanchard.Media and the GunPodcastNetwork.com